If there is nothing else that you remember when it comes to having hope for a situation, or your life for that matter, remember this, Life is all about purpose. When you have a purpose you have value.
Purpose means you have a role, a void to fill for something or someone. Without purpose the mind feels there is no need to exist. There is no role and the universe relies on each living creature and organism having a part in the circle of life.
If you want to give hope to yourself or others, make sure you value your purpose or role in life. If you do not know what that is, keep looking for it until you succeed. Remember purposes can change.
A role you may play out now is not the role you may play in 20 days or 20 years from now. Life is about evolution. Life is about change and so to your purpose or role can do the exact same.
Depression for many in my opinion is not having any reason to get out of bed. That is why many people say their health declined when they retired. When they stopped going to work everyday they had nothing meaningful to do with their now abundance of free time. Work and what they did there each day was a role they played. The task or their position in their job was their purpose. But now what?
If they have not replaced that role or purpose with something else they start to feel less as a contributor to themselves or anyone else. Then life has less quality then before and things start to go down hill.
What about young people? What about your children? If you are constantly telling your children that they are bad, or stupid, or cannot do anything right then what they are hearing is they have no value to anyone. Their contribution is useless because any role they try to succeed in, student, child, athlete etc. they mess up at. So what is that child to do? How is that child to think of themselves? The most important person to a child is their parent. And if that parent is telling them they are worthless so too will they feel.
Is it any wonder why our young people feel like ending it all sometimes. Yes I know, not all of course and thank goodness, but even one child that feels, or has attempted suicide from feelings of being worthless, no value to themselves, or others, is one child too many.
Yes if you want to make a meaningful life for yourself and people around you, remind the person you see in the mirror and to those around you, that life is a little bit better because they are here. That everyone has strengths, a skill set within them, and part of the journey is to find those attributes that contribute to each of us and the world around us. To believe in yourself is to believe in life. To believe in life is to believe that there is more good in this world than bad.
And that my dear friends is one of the most powerful tools to keep this beautiful world on a good track.
Betty Jean Matthews B.A.A. S.S.W., is the Founder of Stuck in the Mud Animal Rescue. She is a mother, an author, an entrepreneur, social service worker, and an advocate for a wide variety of causes. She and her daughters have been featured in Woman’s World Magazine, international news media, The Toronto Star, The Globe and Mail, CTV News, CBC and Global News as well as other local newspapers, television and radio stations including various social media, for their contributions to animal welfare and community involvement. Betty Jean writes a column under the name “Blunt Betty” which is featured on Social Media Morning She lives near Ottawa Ontario with her two daughters. You can write to Betty Jean by clicking here